January is National Co-Dependency Awareness Month
Lexington Park, MD - What is codependency? Well, it is about how you relate to others based on your perceptions and beliefs. Relationships are an unavoidable aspect of the human existence, but codependent relationships can be avoided. Having healthy relationships takes conscious effort, willingness and awareness. January is codependency awareness month.
Healthy relationships start with a high level of self-awareness, which is often gained with the assistance of others. Evidence has shown, when a positive action is taken to bring about mental and emotional balance in a person, their relationships improve as a result. What are the signs of codependent relationships? What is codependency….
'Story of a Codependent'
After my husband Bob and I separated, I met with a psychologist. After two sessions, Holly insisted, “I’ll continue to see you, Diane, but you must attend Al-Anon meetings.” I was confused. “It’s Bob who needs to go to Alcoholics Anonymous. I’m doing everything I can to help him.” I stammered, “I, I’m trying to control his drinking. I’m trying to change his habits, and I’m struggling to cure him of his love affair with alcohol. Why should I go to Al-Anon? I don’t have a problem. He does.”
Holly said, “you need to get help too. Bob is an addict and you are the co-addict, the codependent.” “A codependent?” I quizzed. “What’s that?”
In 2017, become more aware of unhealthy relationship patterns. Take this codependency quiz. These questions will help reveal some of the signs of codependency.
• Can you say NO without feeling guilty? If not, you may be a codependent.
• Do you take the time to think before you act? If you tend to knee-jerk react, you may be a codependent.
• Are you able to balance your feelings with appropriate actions? If not, guess what.
• Are you always on the alert, always acting defensively?
• Does low self-esteem whisper and tell you your feelings do not matter?
• Does shame and blame cause you to avoid family and friends?
• Do you over explain and make excuses? If so, it could be a sign that deep inside you know you have a problem.
• Do you set weak boundaries, and then blame others for breaking them down and walking all over you?
• Or do you construct impenetrable walls to keep people from knowing the family secrets? Weak or rigid boundaries often point to codependent tendencies.
• Do you think you are responsible for the actions of others? If you try to control how those around you behave, you may want to look at your own behavior.
• Do you wear your victim or martyr role like a badge of courage? Then it’s time to free yourself from the lies living inside your head, to face your denial.
Remaining mindful in relationships is not always easy, but there is help. If you are an adult child of an alcoholic, been in love with an addict, or have a child that has struggled with addiction – you may feel like you are unique and alone. Don’t despair, there are free supportive services within reach at the Beacon of Hope Recovery and Wellness Center.
Beacon of Hope Recovery and Wellness is centrally located in Lexington Park inside the Millison Plaza shopping center. Beacon of Hope is a free and open to the public recovery community center for adults and families seeking support related to substance use, mental health or other behavioral health related issues. The center is open to the public Fridays, Saturdays, Sundays, Mondays, and Tuesdays.
Recovery Support Director Laura Webb stated, “The Beacon of Hope is a resource for the recovery community, their family members and others seeking wellness.” Webb told TheBayNet.com, the recovery and wellness support services include peer-led support groups offering a wide variety of approaches that help individuals and families initiate and maintain positive change.
Webb said, “Individuals are free to stop by and pick up information about our groups or attend any one of the open meetings held here.” Webb said, the peer-led support groups offered include SMART Recovery, All Recovery, Meditation, Emotions Anonymous, Codependents Anonymous, AA, NA, Dual Recovery Anonymous, Family & Friends Support, MARS (Medication Assisted Recovery Support), Fit for Recovery, and Adult Children of Addiction groups.
Seeking personal change in 2017? The Beacon of Hope is a great resource to wellness in 2017. Wellness services also include free individual services from trained peers, including Recovery Coaching, Family Coaching, Reiki, Phone Recovery Support, and special events for the community,” Webb said.
Increase your awareness, remember January is National Codependency Awareness month. For more information about the Beacon of Hope call 240-298-0212; 301-997-1300 ext. 804 or go to firstname.lastname@example.org. If you have questions, send an email to Laura Webb at email@example.com or look for them on Facebook as BeaconRecovery
Contact Shertina Mack at s.mack@TheBayNet.com.